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I know some high school romances last for life, but nowadays most teenagers try to rush a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Such relationships are doomed to fail, since they are not based on love, trust and partnership.

They can even be very harmful, especially for young girls. Many girls crave for a "mature" relationship with an older boy/man, and are willing to do pretty much anything to please. They don't really know what a real relationship is like, and they may have very naive/romantic ideas about it, so it's easy to trick and manipulate them into doing something that they shouldn't be doing. Older men know this, and some take advantage of it. Some girls can never form a healthy relationship after their traumatic and abusive "first love".

No, not every single girl ends up like this, but I think it's wiser to keep your head cool and wait until you really are mentally ready for a relationship. And this goes for boys, too.

Lucas! how did that happen? I wasn't on skype if you were discussing it there...

Also, I have a question. At what age is oral sex acceptable? Like, in your opinion?

I think when you feel you are ready, there is no real limit.

Yeah, but I thought differently, it definitely wouldn't be fine when one is, I dunno, 11, right?

Ok, there might be some limits...

There is law...

The law says no over 18 with under 18 AFAIK.

I think Polish law states, that every kind of sexual activity, that involves more than one person, is allowed when every person is more than 15 years old (needless to say, if it isn't rape). With note that watching porn is allowed for people above 18 years old and watching children porn is not allowed.

WorldisQuiet5256 wrote:Saving myself until college. High school date are not what I should go for. Because when you graduate, we are talking about the issue of continuing the relationship.

That's what I've decided as well, but my reasons are different.

sundayfever wrote:Lucas! how did that happen? I wasn't on skype if you were discussing it there...

Also, I have a question. At what age is oral sex acceptable? Like, in your opinion?

This isn't a well-informed opinion, and just based on my own ideals, but I think oral sex is not any more or less significant than any other sexual act. If you are mature enough to deal with these sort of things then I don't believe it really matters which body parts it involves. I'm reluctant to place an exact age on when this maturity is gained because it obviously varies a bit for each person, but I'd definitely say you'd have to be well into your teens at least.

Where i'm live i can't find nothing good. Much girls like me, but i don't like them, because they are to different to me, and that will involve in pure disorder. I can wait enough time, but i don't think that is time the issue here, i need to change the space...

...makes sence because i'm a european living in [term not translational] and i think that i should go to here, to find love.