Ok, I've cut out a few things I wanted to include, and rewrote the into so I could actually get this thing posted! It was just taking me too long. XP
What makes this issue so difficult is that most of us have a very wonderful understanding of ethics we usually call humanism, which for now I'll define by the universalizing of the value of individuals and their rights up until the point of harming others. And God does not seem to hold those same ideas of humanism, or even command a complete and clear theory of them. So, while I feel fairly confident in defining ethics between humanity, I'm not certain it is the same between us and a creator God. The problem seems to lie in part in the intuition of the believer that if God created us for a purpose or set of purposes, he is in some ways justified in judging us evil if we willfully reject those purposes, yet if we humans were to create a human-like individual or race, we would not be justified in judging them if they didn't fulfill purposes we made them for WHICH do not conform to the ethics of humanism. All that to say, we can't play God, but God can. Why? Is it just a "might makes right" argument or a "I say it's good, so it's good" argument? I don't think so. I think, rather, that if we look through all the ideas we see that there is a logical system in it, one that justifies the apparent contradictions between such things as, for example, God's maximal benevolence and the fact that we don't experience ONLY benevolence, like stubbing our toe, or getting sent to hell. XP (I know, hell isn't funny, it is actually the most disturbing part of Christianity I know of, and unfortunately I'm not going to deal with it just yet because I want to get this darn thing posted!)
So, I'll start by trying to defend the "rape" law you mentioned, though I can't complete my defense yet. The point of the law is not a guide to how to morally rape a woman; there is no moral rape. (Though if God's definition of morality is purely utilitarian, or for the greater good, there might be a scenario where rape is a good. I'm doubt that however.) Rather, this is a purely legal, not a purely moral law. The difference is one of practical human judgments. If a woman is in a field where you can't hear her scream, then no one knows if she was actually being raped or was complicity committing adultery (another issue entirely which I'm sure someone will now jump on.
). In the normative human social law (something enforced by all, not by law) of the time and region, women had very few rights and were somewhere between slaves and family, or at least among the lowest on the social pyramid.
This was not God's law; no where in scripture does God command this social construct. Strangely, he doesn't attempt to change it, and I'll get to that point later. Yet while he doesn't attempt to change it, he does build in social protections for powerless women. So, in those times the social norm was that women who have had sex with anyone but their husband are at least scorned and at the most stoned (another point is that it is generally agreed among archeologists and scholars alike that the laws of the OT were more like maximum penalties, not necessarily commanded actions). By forcing the man to marry her and paying a dowry, God has set up a law to make sure that a woman who otherwise would have had no future, has a chance of one. We are of course squeamish about the idea of a woman WANTING to be married to the man who rapped her, but we are also use to the idea of being married for love rather than by arrangement, a purely utilitarian marriage (and again you might ask, why didn't God change that particular social construct of the time? I'll get there...). And ironically, this law seems to favor the woman, because technically a woman could fake a rape and accuse the man she wants to marry... which is obviously twisted and is just another example of how there simply CANNOT BE a perfect legal code. It's not possible even for a perfect God because even if God were to write out an every case scenario that WAS perfect, mankind would not be able to remember and catalog it all, at least not before the advent of computers. That before almost any other argument is why the OT laws are not MORAL laws, but are social laws for a certain period of time, born to fulfill a purpose until the time was right for Christ's birth. And there is much more to be said about that, but I'll switch gears now.
I prefer to cut through all the old testament examples, which I can and may defend, and go straight to what is on the heart of most modern people: why didn't God give the people of the OT our modern concepts of morality and universality of race and gender if he really is good? In other words, instead of that law protecting the socially powerless raped woman, why not socially empower women? I'm slowly building up to this most excellent objection, but first I have to set up the heart of the problem:
But at the heart of the problem of God not teaching a "perfect" code of virtue and humanism is, I think, the argument of what God's purpose in making humanity is in the first place; what his ultimate "good" or morality is in relationship to us. One purpose all Christians agree on is what I will call the love principle, that he created us to love and enjoy him, who is the origination of love and joy, for all of eternity. However, if it is just to love us, a kind of soft frivolous niceness, he could have made it so we could never feel any pain: not from the world, from him, or from each other. We could be more like happy zombies, or automatons, feeling no pain or frustration because we are never able to do anything that would harm ourselves or others. Life would have no real progression, growth, challenge or accomplishment. We could in fact, not truly be said to love each other because a key factor in love is doing that which we dislike because of our love. So this seems a failed hypothetical purpose: God wasn't intending for us just to be loved in a feel good way. I do think this is part of his purpose, but not the hole of it.
The next purpose I think is what I'll call the free will principle (and yes, WorldisQuite and others anticipated this one, so good job XD): our ability to determine what is right or wrong, good or bad for ourselves in any given situation. This is what the story of the fall is about: not merely knowledge, which it seems clear Adam at least was using as he named the animals (in the Hebrew traditions, naming was very important and often had to do with the nature of a thing... this is also a part of the argument for why the correct interpretation for the word "day" in Genesis 1 is "an unspecified period of time" as in, "in the day of Joe the Farmer..." rather than a single 24 hour period as the young earthers interpret it: Adam wouldn't have had time to name all the animals in a single day.). It was never merely knowledge God was against, but the knowledge of Good and Evil. In other words, they, the limited beings, determined for themselves what is good rather than checking with the infinite being for the ultimate perspective on good and evil. So, from the beginning, the point seems to be whether or not people would choose the Ultimate Good which is embodied in God, or whether we would choose our own way. The story of Adam and Eve, regardless if it is a literal event or not, is a symbol that eventually, in spite of our intentions, we will decide to do something without clearing it with the big guy.
The tricky part of free will is that if we are truly going to have the freedom to choose, then we will have the freedom to choose things that will cause suffering to ourselves and others, even monstrous suffering, as in the Holocaust. In fact, if this view is true, then the only way to stay completely free, or perhaps I should just say as free as possible, from actions that would cause harm is to constantly be in contact with God and asking for direction in our choices and actions. And that is, in fact, something I believe in, and it has served me well.
But notice that the free will issue also makes the fight against evil possible. If there was no suffering, no bad guys so to speak, then there could not be heroes, courage, and the determination to be strong, good, and victorious over the bad by being the best we can be. Without the evil of free will, there cannot be the good of free will. This is another principle: the principle of human accomplishment.
Another moral obligation that the limitations of God's principles of love and free will produce would be, I would argue, what I will call the maturing principle, which is to allow humanity as a whole the chance to develop as much of their culture, morality and other achievements as possible. This is akin to letting a child try and fail by themselves instead of doing everything for them. Only in this case, God sees it as a work of the entire human race stretched out across time. For instance, to the best of our understanding the OT laws Moses gave were not the first social law of their type, but rather the Code of Homerobi was the first we know of, and in fact parts of the OT law are very similar to the Code of Hamerobi. Thus, rather than God originating the ideas with Moses, he allowed mankind the time to invent the idea, then produced an arguably better version for his people. So, the importance of the bible is not necessarily that it is the origin of laws and morality, and of the specific stories it contains, but what the specific versions in the Bible tell us about our relationship with God.
Now, couldn't God maintain the love principle and the free will principle and still have a measure of interference in life? Could he, for instance, alter physics occasionally so that major earth quakes don't happen, yet tectonic activity could still continue to recycle vital nutrients through the environment? Couldn't he prevent hurricanes and yet keep the weather cycles active enough to keep rain patterns and temperatures as hospitable as they are? The answer for all of this could be yes, but for one more issue: if he were to do so, he would be handing out bona fide, scientifically reproducible proof that God exists.
Why would that be a problem? Why not just come out of the closet, stop messing around, and prove to us that he exists? Why make this complex universe with all the thousands of systems that exist that make life even possible for us? Why set it up to take so long to form? Why not just pop it out of his belly button, shine it up, and stand by in the sky to physically keep things running and as a visual proof of his existence to all?
If both the love and free will principles are correct, along with the battle against evil, then I think God has a certain "moral" obligation (again, I'm defining God's moral code according to the purpose of his creation), perhaps even a logical limitation, to avoid instances which can scientifically (consistently and repeatable) prove his existence. Miracles, instances of non-repeatable, personal experience to the individual with the purpose of increasing that person's love and trust in him, yes. This is because his goal is that people would choose out of love to trust in him, not merely to trust in him out of intellectual obligation. If you think about it, if he appeared in the sky everyday, or by your side each day to say hi, would that make you seek after him with a passionate love, or would it be commonplace if not creepy? And even if you would, would everyone? Would you feel obligated to believe if the God of the universe proved his existence to you, or would you instantly fall deeply in love with him just because he exists? For me, the process of falling in love with him has been through the search, the small personal experiences gleaned over years of longing. And being infinite, I am constantly amazed at new aspects of his love that have never occurred to me before.
So, to flush that out a little more, I am in fact saying that when God devised the creation of the world, he recognized that there would be great losses and suffering as a result. People would refuse to love him, would reject him, and would create great suffering for others. Yet somehow he thought the end result would be well worth the result, that sharing his glory and beauty in a freely chosen love relationship with those of us who believe would be worth the cost to those who reject him. He's kind of a bastard in that respect, right? It is almost as if he doesn't see humanity quite as human, or perhaps not quite yet as human. We are more like animals, or machines, at least until we begin the process of choosing to love him. Once we make that choice, he begins the work of making us perfect, yet even this is done only through our willingness and desire for him. Those who don't choose him, he may very well see like defective products. In fact, in many cases the word we translate to "hell" is "gehenna," which is basically the name given to a city garbage dump.
I'll have to get back to the question of hell later, as that is perhaps one of the most difficult issues in the bible, but I want to just get this darn thing posted. XP
Yet another aspect of these limitations on God, is that he limits his influence over the bible to the purely theological. In other words, while I do believe you can find inconsistencies which are unimportant to a relationship with God (like the 300 killed vs the 800 killed), there will be no true inconsistency in scriptures which are important to understanding a relationship with God. Perceived inconsistencies will simply require a greater degree of work to understand how they create a consistent model of God and our relationship with him. This limitation is an outgrowth of the maturing principle of allowing humanity the chance to develop on their own (giving as much of the care of the scriptures as possible into the hands of mankind), but also so that the bible could not be demonstrably miraculous. In other words, if there was no inconsistencies, that would almost be more suspicious then if there are none. No errors might just as well encourage the belief that the entire bible was planned out and faked, as it would that it is obvious evidence of God producing the text.
Now, let me acknowledge that much of the above can easily be taken as a theory that allows the believer to avoid the question without having any universally testable proof. In other words, it seems to disregard blatant examples of the Christian God failing to be a rational belief through the use of some fancy philosophical theories. My response to this is that, yes, if you haven't experienced God, the following is not evidence for God's existence, however, if the arguments are sound, which I believe they are, then this IS a theory that explains how their could be a God and yet all the naturalistic evidence points otherwise. So, even if you are not convinced that God exists, I hope this will convince you it is at least possible that the God of the Bible could exist, that there is no logical, experiential, or moral contradiction. That is my goal at least. And if God is possible, that is an excellent reason to try what I call a God experiment: just ask him to reveal himself to you in a way that would allow you to build a relationship with him. Ask him to build a relationship with you, and I think he will. Though it might take some time. XP