Relationships

[borys610]

Why I see Jesus with tarkatan face looking at me in your av Sunday?
Am I crazy?

[The Abacus]

tarkatan

You mean tarlatan?

[borys610]

http://mortalkombat.wikia.com/wiki/Tarkata
I mean this.

[The Abacus]

Hmm.... I now understand

[zombyrus]

I understand the words but I don't understand to whom you are talking, and that makes your sentence really odd.

[Rooster5man]

He meant SundayFever.

[sundayfever]

Why I see Jesus with tarkatan face looking at me in your av Sunday?
Am I crazy?

Maybe. Dunno man I'm not the right person to answer this question ya kno.

Edit: Oh I almost forgot.

So...

as I might have said before, I'm in a distance relationship with this guy, well, not really a relationship since last saturday. You see, my dearest gold told me I don't look the same on the camera and that my body is not as good as it was when we first met, which was 8 months ago. That was also the only time he's ever seen me before May 18, 2013. I don't know now. I don't know if I can take his shit anymore. Some people are telling me to break up with him, but my friend tells me it's a bit more complicated and I agree with her. I knew everything she told me, but I just can't decide. You see, I'm in love as much as I hate to admit that and I don't know anymore if he is too. He said he can't love me, and you know who said that shit in the first place? Him. About 4-5 months ago. And now, I don't even know what's going on. I was confused and I cried my eyes out yesterday. In the evening, I finally became normal again although my eyes were sore from hours of fucking crying (i hate crying). There was some nice music, cheerful music, and then he came on fb chat he was like im so sad boohoo, I was nice to him (im always (too) nice to him (i even accept his bullshit a lot which is not good for me but hes the only person that makes me this weak aye)). He said he's crying and that he's a horrible person and that he doesn't deserve to ever see me again. I was calm and and nice and polite and it went fine. And now I'm in the shitty situation where I don't know if I should leave or stay...

[Isobel The Sorceress]

@sundayfever:

Your relationship doesn't sound very healthy. It sounds like he's taking advantage of your personality. He knows he can say and do whatever, since you will always forgive him.

It's nice that you want to be nice to other people, but you have to have some limits. You have no obligation to tolerate other people treating you badly. You are allowed to be upset about it, and tell them you don't like it. Don't let people walk all over you.

You deserve to be treated as nicely as you treat others. If he can't do it, then why stay together?

[Rooster5man]

Like Iso said, if he outright said he can't love you, then why spend your time with him? Especially when he's going to say he doesn't appreciate your body?

Relationships are supposed to be beneficial to both sides. If he's acting like an ass, I don't see why you have any obligation to act nice to him, especially long distance. You can find so many better people than him, you're a great person.

[WorldisQuiet5256]

I've heard about this situation before.

I am not one of those people who obsess over Hollywood movie celebrities, but some of my friends here who are keeping saying "Why is so and so get back with this so and so, when they just broke up?". And I understand the idea, they may seem like they are sorry, and sometimes they are. But if they keep constantly being rude to you, and then later say "I'm sorrrrrrry. It won't happen again, I promise" yet they keep doing it, they are not good for you.

Like Isobel The Sorceress said, a relationship is about both of the people involved, not just one of them. It made not for the benefit of one person, or both of them for that matter. That Relationship was made because of the connection that is present between the two people.

If you decide to go back to that person after he/she said they were sorry, and that this would be the last time they would do that; if they have a history to redo these insults and they later apologies, they will have another one that is their last time, and another one that is their last time.

My advice is, if you are not being treated respectfully by this person you are with, and the relationship is not making you happy as well as the other, then leave this person. Because when it comes to a relationship, it is about you as much as it is about the person you are with.